HOSTING FIRES

TRANSFORMING LIVES

Your Resource to Hosting with Purpose

Thank you for your desire and courage to fan the flame inside you to lead men in their journey toward redemption.   Starting a fire can be intimidating, and this password protected page was created to equip and empower you, our Fire Hosts, with the tools, guidance, and support needed to lead effectively and embody the heart of Wild Courage. As a Fire Host, you play a pivotal role in creating spaces of trust, growth, and transformation, and it’s essential that we maintain consistency and uphold the shared mission and branding of Wild Courage across every fire gathering. This resource hub is here to provide clarity, training, and inspiration while evolving to stay relevant and useful based on your experiences and feedback. Together, we will continue to refine and strengthen this movement, ensuring it remains impactful for years to come.

PLEASE NOTE: This resource hub is exclusively for Fire Hosts. To maintain the quality and consistency of Wild Courage gatherings, please do not share your password. Keeping this access private ensures these tools and resources are used as intended. Thank you for honoring this responsibility as part of the Wild Courage community.

OUR CORE VALUES

HOPE: Hope is found through stories of both brokenness and redemption.

HUMILITY: Humility is the door to authentic relationship.

STORY: Hope comes from hearing.

REDEMPTION: Without the Redeemer, there is no redemption.

HONOR: Honoring each other above self.

FIRE PREPARATION STEPS

Step I.    

(ideally) Find a partner to come along side you and learn the basics of hosting a fire.  This core individual can help plan, ask questions to keep the conversation going, and step in to host the fire if you have a schedule conflict.

Step II.    

Determine ideal fire location and fire type.

  1. Consider weather changes.

  2. Live fire versus gas fire. Note, propane is a lot less distracting.

Step III.

Determine best day and time. 

  1. Recommend setting a recurring appointment so that there is consistency and can easily be built into a schedule in advance (ie. 2nd Tuesday, 1st Monday, etc.)

  2. To start, consider meeting once a month.  Only move to more often if it is not a burden to you/your co-host (or your families) and your group size is growing (consistently more than 12-15 men).

  3. Reach out to your network, men you would invite, to get their input for consideration.

Step IV.   

Contact men you believe would be interested. 

  1. Start small.  Begin your fire with 3-5 men that you trust to begin building your core.  Practice vulnerability and get some reps.

  2. The core group will serve as an example of vulnerability to new men attending the fire in the future. Lead in this.  How vulnerable you’re willing to get will determine how authentic nights around your fire will be. 

  3. Begin inviting men from outside your core. group slowly as you and your core feel led.

  4. Ideally begin capturing emails so that you can keep them informed as to meetings and other events (like Wild Courage retreats).

FIRE NIGHT AGENDA

HOW TO

Jeremy and Doc have created 4 videos for your review. 

Please listen to each in sequential order.  It is our hope that this provides context of how to host well.

Am I Qualified (01)

Setting the Tone (02)

Starting the Fire (03)

Q&A (04)

QUESTIONS FOR ENGAGEMENT

Getting men to talk is obviously the objective of the fire; to share stories.  The following questions are examples that can be used to help grab their attention, thoughts, and facilitate healthy discussion. 

Note: this is not an all-inclusive list, and if you’ve found a great question that drives great discussion, please fill out the form below and we will review and add to this list as appropriate.

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1.      On a scale of 1 to 10, how are you doing/how are you feeling/how is your world?

2.     What advice would you give your 20-year-old self?

3.     What’s in your heart and how did it get there?

4.     What do you think/feel when I say shame?

5.     Is there any one or thing you’re holding resentment/unforgiveness towards?

6.     If you could change one thing about one relationship right now what would it be?

7.     What got you to say yes to coming? What did/do you hear yourself saying about yourself and why you shouldn't have come at all?

FAQ’s

At some point in your fire host journey, you may be faced with a question that needs a response.  To ensure you are equipped with that response, the following list of questions and answers have been prepared. 

Note: this is not an all-inclusive list, and if you’ve experienced a question that needs an answer, please fill out the form below and we will review and add to this list as appropriate.

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LESSONS LEARNED

  1. Recognize that you may not be truly talking to an adult, you’re talking to the little boy that wasn’t heard, seen or was hurt.

  2. Don’t be alarmed at silence.  The silence may be the first time in a long-time guys just sit in this space, reflect, and pause life

  3. Don’t put pressure on yourself to perform.  You’ll learn as you go and its ok to be a bit messy; most guys coming have their own mess their dealing with. 

DOWNLOADS

Sample Email for Fires »

Sample Email for New Guests »

Fire Host Guide »

Core Values »

MONTHLY CALL

Each month we conduct an online call just for Fire Hosts.  There is no set agenda and is meant to provide space for you to ask questions, be encouraged, and build community with other hosts. 

FIRE HOST ONLINE CALL DETAILS:

When: 3rd Wednesday of every month

Time: 4:30 PM MST

MS Teams Link: Join the meeting now

Meeting ID: 277 180 474 713

Passcode: 9rHtdb